DOMESTIC VIOLENCE: what's the cure?




As we recognize this month as awareness for the fight against domestic Violence we ponder upon the many places in our society where it is not even considered a crime to hit and abuse another human being. 
I lived with abuse all my life and never really thought of it as a crime as I was immune because the number of years I suffered.  The men that vowed to protect me where taking me for granted and I couldn't say much as I was also battling low self-esteem.  My journey could have been short lived, but for the grace of God.  He came in at the right time and pulled me up on my feet and gave me  solid ground to walk on.  He gave me peace, forgiveness, healing and restoration. 
There are many women still today that believe that they don't have a voice in these matters.  Women still believe its called love when he puts his hand on you, or women who still believe that if he puts you down that he loves you. 
There are so many signs that we live with everyday, but ignore because we believe if he didn't hit on me then he didn't abuse me.

  The numbers are growing every day. They are our children, our mothers, our brothers and even our friends.  Don' ignore the signs, know them and seek help.
Image result for pictures for domestic violenceour children are watching and they in turn tend to mimic what they see and hear. stop the cycle.

Signs of abuse: 

  1. Humiliating or embarrassing you. 2. Constant put-downs. 3.Hypercriticism. 4. Refusing to communicate. 5. Ignoring or excluding you. 6. Extramarital affairs. 7. Provocative behavior with opposite sex. 8. Use of sarcasm and unpleasant tone of voice. 9. Unreasonable jealousy. 10. Extreme moodiness. 11. Mean jokes or constantly making fun of you.  12. Saying “I love you but…”  13. Saying things like “If you don’t _____, I will_____.” 14. Domination and control. 15. Withdrawal of affection. 16. Guilt trips.  17. Making everything your fault. 18. Isolating you from friends and family. 19. Using money to control. 20. Constant calling or texting when you are not with him/her. 21. Threatening to commit suicide if you leave.
IF YOU SEEING SOMEONE BEING ABUSE FIND A WAY TO GET THEIR ATTENTION AND SEE HOW THEY WANT YOU TO HELP THEM.

Most times we see the situations and we jump in to help without knowing all the factors, that does not help if you can't see the situation all the way through.  Create cue signs with friends and neighbours for when you are in danger and create a safety plan for when you do decide to leave.

 #endomesticviolence #domesticviolence #whatsthecure #dayzafter #purpose 
#bethecure #violence #endviolence #speakup #stopthecycle

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