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This year I have suffered many losses. My grand mother died 3 years ago. My cousin recently passed from breast cancer my uncle suddenly  had a heart attack and passed. All this loss has shown me how precious life is. I cried countless nights for my loved ones. I refuse to be depressed about it. I know that God has a plan for us all.  Today, I spent time with a dear friend and he showed me what closure feels like. Every situation, does not feel the same. Two people can experience the same situation and come out feeling totally different things. Learning to love each person for who they are and not what they bring  creates an atmosphere for pure love. I have being on this journey to my dayzafter. I have  fallen in and out of love for years since my divorce. I dont regret any experience that I go through, for it teaches me more about me than I have ever learnt in 40 years.  My dayzafter came in the form of a gentle breeze that brushed right into my life wi...

I have struggled with writing this piece because for so long I have been hurting. I have loved so hard and cried so hard that I tend to forget if there really is a happy place anymore.  When I met him, I thought that God had finally answered my prayer. To find your soul mate and be with the one that would truly open up your eyes to the wonders of this world. He looked me in the eye and promised to take care of me, he promised to love me forsaking all others till death did us part. He promised to honor our marriage bed and to provide a safe place for our children to be fed.  was it all a lie? As I sit here in my own dwelling place, I shudder to think that, you are real. I wondered what happened. Did I gain too much weight? did not say I love you enough? did I not honor our vow? did I not honor you above all others?  You walked into my life like a secret and left like a secret. I wonder what was God thinking when he gave you me.  I wonder did he already know that you...

DayzAfter: The effects of parental components in a trauma-foc... : I saw this article and thought it was a good read.  in our society today, many of us and our children have witnessed some form of domestic v...

I saw this article and thought it was a good read.  in our society today, many of us and our children have witnessed some form of domestic violence, we struggle to understand why our child have detachment, attachment issues, issues with cutting, suicide, and the like. take a read. I promise it will open your mind up, I know mine did. Understand why you parent the way you do, why some of us can't feel connected to our own children . http://eds.a.ebscohost.com.ezproxy.uta.edu/ehost/pdfviewer/pdfviewer?sid=1709bd40-f8d5-4317-a438-15233b96beb0%40sessionmgr4003&vid=1&hid=4210

I sit here today wondering why I am so sad.  I have a husband and a family but yet I feel like I am all alone.  You see my husband has been cheating on me and he thinks that he has hidden it well enough that I couldn't possible know.  There comes a time in everyone's life where they will face that day, when they find out that their mate has not been faithful. The silent calls, the whispers, the emails, the late night house calls, the change in dress, the frivolous spending, all signs that I tried my hardest to ignore. Some say that he didn't have a physical connection, well the bible says that, " if a man should lust after another woman then he has already committed adultery" it's just a matter of opportunity.    Understanding why men cheat is something many scholars before me have tried hardest to explain.  Maybe he cheats because you are not doing your wifely duties, Maybe he chea...

     From the time I was born I knew I was special, but not this kind of special. For most of my life that I can remember, I was taken advantage of by men. I never quite understood why I would constantly put myself in the position to be used and abused, but I did.  I grew up in a family that does not speak on many issues, such as sex, STD's, diseases and god forbid mental health.       As an adult I was told that as a child I was hidden from the public because I was ugly.  that was enough to cause trauma in my mind that made me very insecure and unsure of myself and my worth.  I grew up thinking that I wasn't in my right family, I constantly second guess myself.  I craved attention.  In high school, I would faint almost every Monday, which  was my way of getting the attention that I so craved at home.  I was the first child of my mother, but lived in a home with so many cousins that...

To you my dearest child This has been a long ride. The day you were born was filled with joy and laughter.  I was so glad to finally welcome you into this world, to hold your hands, kiss your cheeks, sing you songs and tell you stories that would create memories of a lifetime.  I couldn't envision a more glorious day. We have been through so many ups and downs, but I tried my best to shelter you from all the bad. I wanted you to have everything I never had and more.  The thought of being loved to the point that it hurts (in a good way). I wanted to offer you a little bit of pain so that you were not so sheltered, that you couldn't deal with the world and the disappointments that it will bring to you. The world can be cruel, people will lie to you, they will say all sorts of mean things to you and about you. People will promise you all sorts of things that they know very well they can't give, but that's the reason I provided you with the best so you know what that lo...

Why do we allow others to dictate how we feel. Is it that we are insecure or that we just don't care? Well, I would like to share this with you today. Do not let other people define who you are.  Know who you are, and whose you are. Release those negative demons from your life.  Love the life you are in and allow God to dictate  your path. I always tell my children, when kids are mean to them that God don't  like ugly, it's the ugliness on the inside of that person that's makes then be that way. Don't let that sip into your spirit. Do you believe it's easy to roll negativity off your backs? What are you suggestions to your kids when they feel low because of someone else's actions? What scriptures or encouraging words do you turn to.

     Some may say it’s sad to never have been in love.  Well in some ways yes it is, and it has for many individuals.  Some women are more independent than others and choose the lifestyle of being forever single.  Most will admit that they couldn’t settle for people giving them less than they believe they were worth or deserved. It wouldn’t be fair to stay and pretend that they were happy when inside they were dying to escape. To be free to express what I love and need, to not be criticized for my opinions, or even trying to have one for a matter of fact.   Single hood can be so liberating.  Yes we all want to grow old with someone.  I do; I want that but do I have to be married to have that.  Sometimes, we spoil great friendships with marriage.  No one wants  to add to the statics that plagues our society, but, wouldn’t it be better to add to that number than the ones where we are ashamed to admit we are depressed and miserabl...

Well today I went walking and this young boy tried to pick me up with the saddest line ever. So when asked what's my name I replied, I am married, to which he responds so your name is married and walks away. :) Our society of young adults have no respect for age.  They see a young female and look at us as an opportunity  to conquer. After years of marriage, my husband has not spoken to me honestly in so long I have lost count. So, this sad attempt at this youngster would seem flattering but I was more annoyed than anything. This is the way the devil uses oppotunities to trap us.  Do you know when to recognise when you are being tested? Well that's the fear of most people living in lives where they are not happy. Where they bearly talk, or share anything in common. They fall to the wiles of the devil. Job was tested and we will be too. No marriage can survive without trust and open communication.  It's hard to survive when the one you care about doesn't want t...

It is sad that this is my revelation, but it is. I got married a few years ago and thought was very happy.  People around me felt that I had locked out and didn't deserve the position I was now placed in.  I never quite understood it, for I didn't think that I had won any such trophy.    For the first few years, things were fine; we were in the honey moon stage.  Shortly after that little things started to unravel; the lies started.  It went from the anger outburst with crippling words about regret about wanting to be with me and my inability to be mature enough to handle someone like you.  It didn't take long before the other women became issues.  It was always a friend, longtime friend, colleague, a customer etc., so many adjectives.  I couldn't keep up.  I had women driving by the house and the excuses were so pathetic, but I was in love and didn't really think that he would do that to me.  I mean I was that special (isn't tha...

It's been a while.since I've been here.  Wanted to update you on some things. I can feel the victory. I can feel that overwhelming power of freedom. When I set out to start this ministry, I didn't have a dime. I didn't have anything but a vision.  Through that vision I  have been able to tell people about what it is that I wanted and was looking for, which created the logo for dayzafter.  "Like branches on a tree we all have a purpose." My purpose is different from your purpose, but we all have a purpose. Some come into our lives for the purpose of saving us from ourselves. Some come for the purpose of bring solution to pain and destruction, but whatever the purpose is keep putting one foot infront the other. I was lead to a group of women from different states, who meet every Sunday to encourage each other via an app. We pray. We share. We encourage and motivate for the sole purpose of rebuilding each other's strength in trying times. I have been ...

Tips for parents facing Divorce and Separation This week I had to deal with the reality that people don't fight fair when they are hurting.  They will do everything to hurt you because they themselves are hurting and can't handle the emotions that are overwhelming and overbearing for them.  The question today is, if it's that overbearing and overwhelming for YOU, why would you transfer that to your CHILDREN? Things that you can do to prevent children from being in the middle when going through a Divorce or Separation 1. Fight fair.  Don't change the normal routine on purpose out of spite. Children can't handle too many changes at one time, especially if they are very young. 2. Stop making them feel that they need to choose:  Don't try to outshine the other parent by seeing who can buy the best or most things.  In those critical times treats and tricks is not want brings peace, time and genuine and an ability to be empathetic is...

As we recognize this month as awareness for the fight against domestic Violence we ponder upon the many places in our society where it is not even considered a crime to hit and abuse another human being.  I lived with abuse all my life and never really thought of it as a crime as I was immune because the number of years I suffered.  The men that vowed to protect me where taking me for granted and I couldn't say much as I was also battling low self-esteem.  My journey could have been short lived, but for the grace of God.  He came in at the right time and pulled me up on my feet and gave me  solid ground to walk on.  He gave me peace, forgiveness, healing and restoration.  There are many women still today that believe that they don't have a voice in these matters.  Women still believe its called love when he puts his hand on you, or women who still believe that if he puts you down that he loves you.  There are so many signs that ...

     Do you feel that since the children have been gone that your life has been changed upside down? You feel like someone else is holding the strings to your existence? Well many women go through that struggle where they feel that they can't get a handle on what's going on.      On January 21st my life changed in the worst way possible.  My babies that I had loved for so long were being taken.  Through no fault of their own, they were now wards of the state.  A situation I promised myself I would never allow my children to have to bear witness to.     Along with the changes that was going on with the kids, came my marriage on the rocks.  I went from being a newly wed, to a foster mom for two years and then a potential divorcee and my world as I knew it was no more.  The blame game started and the constant arguments and then the feeling of betrayal.  I truly felt like someone else was holding the strings to my lif...

Hi, My name is Georgette George-Wilson. I am from an island called Dominica. Last spring break an opportunity came up to help a community that needed assistance after they suffered so much after hurricane Katrina. I received an email that asked for volunteers and while I didn't quite understand my decision, I knew that I was born to serve. So I signed up to volunteer, to do what I was born to do. I went on the alternative breaks in Biloxi, Ms, and my life was forever changed by the experience that I was exposed to. It was there that I met a group of ladies from  ‪#‎ Sueshouse‬  who opened my eyes and heart to the true meaning of volunteering and doing for others that may not look like me, be like me or even speak like me. It was my pleasure to have done a great service to a community that greatly needed the assistance. Since coming I have started a ministry called i ‪#‎ dayzafter‬ . Its about helping women and children rebuild and love again after bring taken from their home...

Tropical storm Erica has hit the Caribbean Island of Dominica.  It is a small island located in the Lesser Antilles.  The government is calling on all those abroad to help and lend a hand to rebuild our beautiful nature island. While we already have saturated soil, there goes more bad weather approaching the island.  " According to Mr Alexander, a tropical wave is forecast to move across the Lesser Antilles by early tomorrow Saturday, 29 August 2015 “producing an increase in cloudiness, showers and possible isolated thunderstorms and unstable conditions are expected to linger until Sunday morning”. I urge my fellow citizens to take caution and evacuate if you are able to.  There are several gofundme accounts set up to assist the island.  There are also relief efforts for supplies, and I am sure there will be for water, and human assistance to rebuild.   Lets all come together to rebuild our country, there is no division in times of disaster.   The ...

Dayz After is a brand platform that is geared towards affecting changing in peoples lives that have lost their children as a result of cps involvement.   our goal is to encourage, uplift, empower and get you to live again. our stories are real, they are relatable and they are present.   we share a common bond, a common struggle, a common motivation. in that we have had cps in our lives. We all hold the power to determine how much involvement that the state has in our families.  The question is have you given up all of your power or are you struggling between what percentage remains with you.  Too many times we give up all of our power when we need to keep it all.  Know what your power struggles are, will help you to avoid them at all cost.  No matter what situation you find yourself, you have the power to change your circumstances.  Are you going to wallow in self pity and allow a system that is not totally geared towards building famil...

Well today I had to deal with loss of a close family friend by suicide. It is never easy dealing with loss and it is ten times harder I believe when it’s unexpected and it’s by suicide. Telling a family member that we have suffered this loss is never easy. I had to tell my granny today that one of her close friends growing up just committed suicide. she was in shocked and couldn’t believe that I was telling her that. For those of you who have ever dealt with this, How did you cope? I know that all grief is hard. For those contemplating suicide, find someone that you can talk to, someone that you can confide in and let it out. there has to be another answer. Whats makes us make those decisions? stress is something we are now realizing is one of the biggest killers in our society. Reach out to family and friends. Check up of your family and friends. Once that time has come and gone there is nothing you can do to change the course. Most of us tonight are asking ourselves why and wh...